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Mar 30, 2023Liked by Jose Manuel Redondo Lopera

There is a fourth - accommodation - where we go to shared sacrifice for the great good

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It sounds like compromising

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In your diagram you show compromise as loose loose - but I always think compromise is nearly always where one person sacrifices more than the other - an asymmetric exchange. So, in the analogy of a four-seater park bench with four people on it - and a fifth person arrives - in a compromise one person based on a specific criteria gets off the bench to let the other sit down. In an accommodation - everyone gives an inch to allow the other to join them.

In a relationship compromise leads to disatisfaction, at least for one, whilst accommodation leads to a reframing of benefit for the many.

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